So, one argument I’ve been hearing a lot this week from those who oppose same sex marriage has been that traditional marriage has “worked” for thousands of years. I have to wonder what “working” means in this case. If by “working” we mean just “continuing the human species”, then yes, we have done that. I suppose that continuing to exist can be a success in itself. But has traditional marriage truly been an effective way of living life? Women, in particular, have held a shitty and repressed role in marriage for all those glorious thousands of years. Has traditional marriage worked for them? Many married human beings have spent their lives being miserable and unfulfilled in those marriages. It almost makes me wonder if gays and lesbians really want to be a part of the marriage train.
But the basic truth about marriage is that it’s an economic contract. That is what it has been about for straight people for centuries, with romantic love only being a recent addition to the mix. That’s why most of the arguments in favor of same sex marriage have been about money, and rightly so. And about the simple desire of people wanting to be treated like everyone else, which is completely understandable.
I see no good reason not to expand the definition of marriage to same sex partners. I also can’t help but question the “sacred institution” of marriage itself. Hopefully we can continue to re-invent our institutions and traditions in ways that make our lives happier and more fulfilling.